Once while eating dinner with a friend, he made a blunt statement of how he thought that I was incapable of loving someone truly as far as he knew me. I do not know whether he was serious or pulling my leg to make a conversation, but those words did make me feel like someone had punched me on my gut. He did apologize after seeing my reaction but that didn't help me feel any better. To start with I hate judgmental people. I have made various mistakes in the past that I am not very proud of but doesn't everyone have something they regret doing? No one is perfect and you can't judge people from their past. I do want to change a lot of things about me and people frequently tell me to do so but do they give me a chance to do that? Nope. Whenever I try to do something right they tell me that I won't be able to do it and if I carry on with what I've always been doing, they bitch about me. So, when the person told me about my incapability from his perspective I started to wonder if he was right which left me thinking about life and my role in it. On second thought I realized that he was just one of those judgmental people who thought they know me enough without even trying to know what I'm really like. I know that I am a better person than from what people tend to think of me. That night I did hold my tears back and told him what I thought I was capable of doing and how I thought he needed to get a life. I know it's not the worst thing that a person can say but those words were linked to a lot of other things that made it unbearable. The person who said I wasn't capable of loving did try to know me better after that incident and I think he knows how I am for real this time. I am thankful for his change of attitude towards me. Only if there were more people who shared the same type of attitude the world would have definitely been a better place to live in.
Sometimes you don't realize but some words really hurt even if the person doesn't mean it. I know at times i say some really mean things to people even though i don't mean it, and later i realize i can never take my words back. I guess some relationships start from not such a positive point, but soon turn into something beautiful. Just an advise take it or leave it. Don't change for people but change because you want to change for yourself, and because you want to be the best person you can be. I like how you know you can be a better person and instead of just thinking about it, you actually want to make the change.
ReplyDeleteI think that was one of the best advices I've ever got. thanks :)
ReplyDeleteYes, I think it can happen to boys to. Most of the victims are probably traumatized children or young adults. However, the reason I chose this article was because I have actually witnessed a bunch of people who had a "crying" epidemic in my village in Nepal for over a month. The most surprising thing about this is that all of the victims were girls! It was probably because the women in rural areas are dominated and live under a lot of pressure.
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ReplyDeleteI think this is a very personal essay, but thank you for sharing. You really shouldn't care so much about what people say (but do listen to them, because sometimes they do say some sensible things that you don't notice). If you believe what you are doing is right, then go for it! Be determined and prove them wrong~It's very difficult to be who you are if you care too much about what people think about you or do/be what others want you to do/be.
ReplyDeleteA good way to improve this essay is probably focusing on how this experience has changed you (eg. having the confidence to stand up against those people who think they are better and can just others) rather than focusing on telling how much you hate those people and what they have done to you.
thanks for the feedback :) I will try to do better next time by writing more about my improvement.
DeleteYour essay is very frank and tells what you believe in.
ReplyDeleteColleges will really like your essay.
You used your anecdote to tell us a story. I think this story means a lot to most of the people in our grade. Talking about how a single word can make others sad and angry, how few words just randomly coming out from your mouth can actually hurt someone mentally. I am sure everyone learned a lesson from this. Thank you for sharing.
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